This is so destructive and further perpetuates this narrative of Black women deserve mistreatment if they don't mirror eurocentric ideals of feminity. Feminity is an energy that can be expressed in any way you see fit. There is nothing RARE about our feminity. It's just not packaged like a white Stepford wife. Never has BEEN.
Their actions can include but are not limited to: choosing better men, not having sex with deadbeats/having sex irresponsibly, not knowing how to shut up and listen, knowing how to care for and nurture men and their children, realizing that a career and materialistic things don't make you a better woman, being combative, being disrespectful to men (especially black men).
Accountability looks like being accountable for not taking ownership for those mistakes, instead of playing the blame game pointing towards the males. Trust me it's females all over.
To say a black woman is beautiful is such an understatement because she is so much more. My true issue here is not feminity. I embrace it, especially with dark skin women. However, it's the rare part and the Queen's part that is dangerous to the mindset of men who may already feel certain women deserve admiration. Hope you understand that.
You don't date your circle of friends or women you know so you only have a limited perspective. The MEN are saying otherwise and we should listen to them in order to restore healthy relationships with them. To THEM, finding women who are datable and marriage material for THEM with all of these basic qualities is rare. This is what I mean ultimately about women holding other women accountable. Yet, THIS is the fight...even on this post alone.
Stop downing black women for being beautiful and comfortable in their melanated skin. Over the years women have gotten together we share similar stories. So men who have said we are rare, not like the other girls. Was said to us by men who played many women. He is calling us rare thinking he can get away with things he couldn't in the past. Usually, misogynist and narcissistic men tend to say this..thinking you have no other competition of women. Meanwhile, they are cheating on the rare girls
Even teen girls caught on..men who find you to be a good woman. Won't see you as rare. He knows it's many great women out there. He just knows you are unique for HIM. But if you mess up. He knows he finds another Queen.
YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMEN. Men want to maximize the advantage they get over us, so they don't care what we do, so long as THEY benefit from it more than we do. It's really that simple. No gender politics. Then, the more we cater to them, the more unsatisfied they become because they happen to be human beings like us. It's a mug's game and we should know by now not to play it.
So we must wear white gloves and pearl to be classified as feminine. We must wait on a man constantly no matter what our own goals, dreams, and aspirations are in order to be deemed feminine. My dad is a man and he taught me to never wait around in a man and to be independent.
My sister never allows anyone to make you have to explain yourself... You are a Beautiful Black Queen...
Let me make it clear some women know their value some sisters don't the ones that don't are the ones that don't know oh because they have that moneymaker/pu××y they think everything gets handed out to them not true because if you use your pu××y for that reason you will be considered a hoe now we have those who have their own respect for them selfs those the ones men look for that will make a man better himself because she is worthy of men's respect.